In my opinion, confidence is key. When I’m in a room with someone who is really well put together, I feel like it completely radiates. I start thinking about my life and how I want to start being presentable and inspire others to do the same. Just by being around someone who is confident in themselves makes me feel like I need to be making big moves and change my life for the better. So this has me thinking- What if I was that person? What if I looked the part, and inspired others to do better? I love that idea. In order to feel confident in myself, I think looking the part plays a big role. I truly believe that if you are put together well and look really presentable, more opportunities for growth are attracted to you. Here are some things that I do personally to look the part.
When you’re out, show people that you went out of your way a little bit extra. Even if it’s some earrings or a charm bracelet, it shows that you are willing to put in some kind of work. I think that this also subconsciously tells me that I am worthy of looking a little bit flashy. I’m usually always wearing a simple necklace on a daily basis, but aside from that, I’ll wear either diamond earrings or hoops when its more casual. I’ll also go out of my way to put on a flashy watch or charm bracelet. Watches are a perfect detail for all the the men who don’t know what to do to accessorize.
Perfume. Always. Wear. Perfume. You’re going to the gas station? Just got out of the shower? Camping? Sushi date? Bookstore? Whatever. Who cares! Invest in a perfume or cologne that you really like. I consider perfume as a potion. You put it on and literally in a matter of seconds, you feel like a whole upgraded person. And people also view you differently. I’m always smelling good, and I can confidently say, one hundred percent that every time I get that compliment: “You smell so good!” my ego skyrockets. I can not stress this enough. My go to scent is La Vie Est Belle by Lancome. Another one of my absolute favorite perfumes is Fantasy by Brittany Spears. This scent was really popular at one point and I’ve stuck with it for years after. It’s an amaziiiing smell. So many people ask what the scent I’m wearing is, making this a great conversation starter. You can form a lot of cool connections just by your scent. Isn’t that crazy? Definitely invest in something that makes you feel good on a daily basis like perfume or cologne. If I’m not going all out on expensive perfume, I’ll make sure to wear some scented lotion or carry some cinnamon bun scented sanitizer around. (Bath & Body Works is the best!) People always tell me that I smell like vanilla and coconut, which is so weird to me because I don’t even try to smell good sometimes! But like I said, huge confidence booster. So put in that little bit of effort!
As a cashier, I would get really up close and personal with my customers. Sometimes I would go to lunch and eat ramen, and forget to bring gum with me back. In this scenario, I would completely shut down. I’d look down, avoid conversations, and put my hand to my mouth a lot when talking. This screams insecurity! This made me unable to form bonds with customers and less likely to get to know people. I guess that this can go along with the scent category, but aside from smelling “fresh” I feel like chewing gum helps me focus and get my point across easier when I’m talking or working. I feel a lot more confident by chewing gum… Is it just me? Plus- If you have gum or mints, this makes people want to go to you when they want some. How many times have you pulled out gum, and people rush in to ask you for a piece? This subconsciously teaches people that you are reliant you provide for others, and got their back in a time of “need”. You can have that confidence in knowing that you’ve got what someone wants. Of course Megan, it’s not that deep, but it does makes you feel a bit better. In my opinion, that little bit of effort is worth the feeling.
Keep a brush or comb on you at all times. When I’m trying to look really well put together, I either slick it back in a bun, or have it consistently brushed. Honestly, I’ve never been into heating tools. I hated damaging my hair. But now that I’m a bit more spontaneous (AKA now that I’m blonde and my hair is already fried), I don’t mind the heat. It’s worth it to feel better about myself. Hair is hair. It will always come back. These days spent insecure and not presentable weren’t worth the absence of heat. If you feel most confident with your natural look- by all means, keep it exactly that way! The key is to feel like the best version of yourself. My best version is usually straightened hair with a few little curls here and there. I curl my bangs too. I really like a 70’s kind of look for me.
I can not present myself correctly anywhere if my nails aren’t well kept. I’ll either have really pretty natural nails with a polish or clear coat, or incredibly long acrylics that are always maintained. There is no in between. If my nail polish is chipped, my confidence is low. If my nails are uneven or dirty, I won’t be able to think correctly. Maybe this is just a personal problem but regardless, having nice nails is a huge confidence booster! Try to keep your nails clean, even, and just overall well kept. This means having access to nail clippers and or nail files often. It’s a simple change you can make to feel more confident. I currently have really long natural nails that I’m growing. I like to coat them with a plain & simple classy red color, a darker nude, or glitter polish. If you feel confident when you get manicures, support it! I personally think that acrylics were getting expensive. I have higher priorities that kick them out of the equation. I actually use my own gel polish and UV LED light, and that has made an incredible difference in both my wallet and my valuable time. A side note- I think that pedicures are just as important as manicures. Even if other people aren’t always going to see your toes, you’re gonna see your toes! It’s a real confidence booster being able to lounge around the house and go on a quick trip to the gas station knowing that my toes are pretty.
Keep materials that make you feel good about yourself on hand. I apply a lot of Nivea face lotion to give myself a nice dewey natural look when I don’t want to get all dolled up. I keep lipgloss or Carmex with me at all times! My lips are literally always glossy and that makes me feel so much better about myself. If you’re a guy chapstick is definitely a boost too. Like I said before, scented hand sanitizer from Bath & Body Works is a win, and they’re so small and easy to travel with!